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New Blogging Project: In My Skin

Dramatic — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 07:50:15 +0000

I was involved in a Plurk discussion last week, about body image. I became involved towards the latter third of the debate on what is sexy and how men allegedly view women. As I tried to catch up, the conversation became a bit fevered. I decided to jump in at this point because the conversation kept refreshing as I read and I was surprised by some of the things being said. I went back finish coloring in the picture being painted and became further shocked by some of the things that were said. Do you really feel that way?

A man’s perceptions as perceived by a woman…

I think men lie 2 big women. They say they like women w/ meat on their bones but then r they breaking their necks 2 look @ the skinny ones.

The consensus was that men like looking at all women. Retorted by

…my male friends all say they are not into skinny women and then when they are talking to you, they can’t complete a sentence… Why? Because some woman with no butt, no tits, no hips and no thighs just walked by. I mean come on!

Maybe it’s just your mail friends. I am not going to say I don’t look. I do! I just try not to stare. I personally think it’s disrespectful for a conversation to be disrupted in this manner, no matter what the relationship is with the initial woman. If the two of you can share the viewing, the it’s whatever, but your attention shouldn’t be stolen.

The breakdown… Skinny, thick, bootylicious, big boned… Do you agree with the breakdown? Where do you feel you fall in this breakdown? Is it a fair hierarchy? My categorization is slightly different. I am not a body snob as Digi puts it, at least not as far as weight goes. I just feel that women should have curves. What do you think?

To fast forward a bit… The conversation went on for a few hours that day and continued the following day. After a while it began to seem to me a bit of hurt was coming through from some of the women’s responses. I counted about six bloggers in the conversation. We recognized that the subject matter was too broad and too deep to discuss restricted to one-hundred forty (140) characters.

Rik suggested a joint blogging project between himself, Tanya & I. Hours later… In My Skin was born. The idea being to open discussions of issues relevant to us… Health, social, parenting, dating, economics… The possibilities are endless.

2008 in Review

Dramatic — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 04:25:39 +0000

As usual I took a moment to read through my previous Year in Review. I am proud of how much I have grown over the years.

This year, I have risen and fallen as usual. People have come and gone. Those of you still here, I hope you will stick around. Even those of you in my silent cheering section. I know you are there. You guys pop up from time to time.

Early in the year, some ties were broken and are now being pieced back together, family and friends.

My current job situation is due to the economy. Sucks, I know. I am looking for new outlets, ways to better myself. I am looking into becoming a stronger designer. I will go more into that next year.

In all this year has been great. I have learned a lot about myself and the people I have let into my life. I am thankful for the lessons life has been teaching me.

As always, I am looking forward to the new year and all that it brings with it. I am sure I am in for a rough time in the beginning, but things always work themselves out.

Have a Happy New Year you guys and thanks for stopping by. I wish you all the best in the coming year.

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I Got the News Yesterday

Dramatic — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 17:25:56 +0000

For those who haven’t heard yet, I lost my job yesterday. My former bank just wasn’t making enough deals. I had been getting a full forty (40) hours, while I watched the other temps get a day here and there, some even every other week. I knew I had been lucky.

My immediate response was to update my résumé, but I didn’t have focus to do so. I will get it done at some point this weekend, so that I can get a jump on the week. I can’t afford to take a break. I just was not prepared for this.

Time to dust off my old contacts. Missed a great networking opportunity, being asked to speak at an event which I forgot to RSVP for. I will hit the next one. Hopefully, I will be invited to speak again. I think it will be good for my personal growth as well.

I think the worst part of all of this will be telling my son that I am out of work again. I was looking forward to Christmas this year and spoiling him a bit more than usual. He deserves it! I will have to postpone it.

I would like to toast the future. Whatever it may be, I am looking towards it.

See more progress on: get a job

I Have Been Thinking A Lot…

Dramatic — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 22:31:30 +0000

…About going back to school.

Is this really the time? I think it is. I have been putting it off for so long. So much is going on in the world. The market is in a downward spiral, things are getting more competitive… I don’t want to be caught out there when things pick up.

I feel there is going to be a renaissance of sorts when the economy bounces back… or at least I hope for a period of deeper appreciation for what we have and the opportunities before us. I just feel I should get a jump on it either way.

More immediately, this would be me turning a negative into a positive. While my credit is shot and I am paying it back, it’s difficult for me to get an apartment. I can put whatever extra funds I can muster towards getting a degree. I can move when my personal economic conditions are more acceptable.

Benefits: What exactly are the benefits? Well as far as I can tell, a sense of accomplishment, a degree would make me more marketable and my son will see me doing even more positive things. I am trying to teach him to keep reaching.

As of now, I am still unsure what I want to go back for. I don’t even know what school or schools I want to attend. I am going to walk into an admissions office soon. Has to be long before the holiday. I want to get the ball rolling for Winter / Spring term.

I am praying for guidance. Pray for me, please. Wish me luck!

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Check to Check

Dramatic — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 18:42:45 +0000

Not too long ago I stated that I would no longer be living check to check come September. I guess it depends on how you define the month. Is it from the first pay check of the month? Is it from the first of the month?

I have decided that it should be from the first of the month. While, in my view, I have fallen short of this, I will make some preparations this week to make sure I can take full advantage of my pay check on Friday. I know some of this is going to be really hard, but if I don’t do it myself, it might just happen anyway.

I am not purchasing a monthly Metrocard until payday. I think I only need a $4-6 (2-3 rides) card to get through the week
I am limiting the amount of money I spend on meals at work to $50 per week, even if this means I have to skip a meal or two
I am going grocery shopping this weekend and I am going to try to get as much stuff as I can carry to work so that I am not spending $10-20 a night on food

I think I can make it. I am starting out the week with just over $100. After grocery shopping, I should have just enough for lunch at work this week. This is going to be interesting, I think… If I get in a bind, there is always my meager savings.

I am trying really hard not to dip into my savings. Right now, I am in the process of setting up a plan to pay myself back for not saving in June and July. I have to make adjustments to the amount I need to pay back to reflect 20% rounded up to the nearest $5 of my weekly pay.

In all, things are going pretty good. Making regular payments. I need to find out exactly how deep I am in though. I glanced at some of my older entries and I don’t think I am making the best financial choices I can be, otherwise, I wouldn’t be living check to check. I will make better choices in the future. I just need to come up with a better plan.

See more progress on: get out of debt

My First Tweet

Dramatic — Sat, 10 May 2008 18:59:08 +0000

Twitter – My First Tweet, originally uploaded by Dramatic.

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Looking at my very first twitter post had me thinking about where I was then and how far I have come and how much I have grown as a person.

Since this post, I find that I have been smiling more. I have been a bit more forward. I am more optimistic. I just smile more. When I down, I can always think back to when things were worse and how much stronger and better I stand after a fall down.

Do you remember your first tweet? Did it have a significant meaning? What was it? Do you have any other web firsts that were important to you?