New Blogging Project: In My Skin

Dramatic — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 07:50:15 +0000

I was involved in a Plurk discussion last week, about body image. I became involved towards the latter third of the debate on what is sexy and how men allegedly view women. As I tried to catch up, the conversation became a bit fevered. I decided to jump in at this point because the conversation kept refreshing as I read and I was surprised by some of the things being said. I went back finish coloring in the picture being painted and became further shocked by some of the things that were said. Do you really feel that way?

A man’s perceptions as perceived by a woman…

I think men lie 2 big women. They say they like women w/ meat on their bones but then r they breaking their necks 2 look @ the skinny ones.

The consensus was that men like looking at all women. Retorted by

…my male friends all say they are not into skinny women and then when they are talking to you, they can’t complete a sentence… Why? Because some woman with no butt, no tits, no hips and no thighs just walked by. I mean come on!

Maybe it’s just your mail friends. I am not going to say I don’t look. I do! I just try not to stare. I personally think it’s disrespectful for a conversation to be disrupted in this manner, no matter what the relationship is with the initial woman. If the two of you can share the viewing, the it’s whatever, but your attention shouldn’t be stolen.

The breakdown… Skinny, thick, bootylicious, big boned… Do you agree with the breakdown? Where do you feel you fall in this breakdown? Is it a fair hierarchy? My categorization is slightly different. I am not a body snob as Digi puts it, at least not as far as weight goes. I just feel that women should have curves. What do you think?

To fast forward a bit… The conversation went on for a few hours that day and continued the following day. After a while it began to seem to me a bit of hurt was coming through from some of the women’s responses. I counted about six bloggers in the conversation. We recognized that the subject matter was too broad and too deep to discuss restricted to one-hundred forty (140) characters.

Rik suggested a joint blogging project between himself, Tanya & I. Hours later… In My Skin was born. The idea being to open discussions of issues relevant to us… Health, social, parenting, dating, economics… The possibilities are endless.

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Dramatic — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 22:32:14 +0000

Last night, I had a wonderful night out with Tanya. Started out with a movie, Underworld: Rise of the Lycans — As a standalone I think it was alright, but as part of the Underworld trilogy or series, it disappointed me. She always seems to get the giggles when she’s with me. This time holding my pizza like a purse. Afterwards, we went to Better Burger in Chelsea, where we sat and talked for two or so hours.

We touched on a number of subjects including the way we’ve interacted with each other up until now, my current situation and relationships. Attachments, desires and needs were worked into the conversation.

Needy women… I mentioned that I was attracted to women who need me then she went into strong woman mode, I could never…

When I mentioned my attraction to women who need me, I wasn’t necessarily speaking of needy women. You can need without being needy in my opinion.

At this point in my life, I am looking for interdependence. Two completely whole, independent people, not supplementing, but sharpening… making each other stronger… better.

I have to get better for that though. I have to get myself to the point where I feel I am completely independent. I am having too many ups and downs at this stage in my life. I think I should be more stable.

Right now, I am feeling like the needy one. Thank you Tanya, for everything. For the movie, the dinner, the conversation. I appreciate it. Thank you!

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